Heart Series Part 1a
Children cont.
Yes, Monday came and went and now it is Tuesday.....and I am a little late on my posting. I finished Sunday with exasperation. I always wondered about that word and now that I have put some action to it, I can see it for what it is. And I can get an honest look at me.
Cause really, I can truly teach and give to my children only what I already possess.........and learning to possess.
So what do we do with this ugly word exasperation, because it really does sounds ugly.
Not something I want to line myself up with. But really, how do we move from just being exasperated a lot of the time to raising our children with discipline?
We must move to training and instructing our children with love.
Doesn't that sound so much better?
I firmly believe that showing them affection and using great listening skills on a daily basis - even our teenagers -is key. Giving them this time first- lays the foundation for proper instruction and training.
This may step on toes -And I am so pointing at myself.........but
conversing with them while playing a computer game or on Facebook doesn't count for time with them! And it doesn't have to be a large amount. Just focused for a few minutes.
Look them in the eyes. Smile. Be sure they know you think they are beautiful inside and out, no matter what.
Give lots of hugs. Squeeze lots of hands....Even the big boys. And LISTEN to them. Really listen with our ears. CONNECT with them.
Now the foundation is laid for the instruction.
By Instruction I am implying the "what you say". It's all the counseling, the teaching, the moments of sharing your stories and yes, believe it or not, they are listening to you.
And when you are loving them, listening to them, instructing them,
You will be able to TRAIN.
Training is the "do part". The nitty gritty, at times, as this is where the discipline comes in. The correction......always in LOVE.
The training will flow with much more ease through you when you have already had the connection and the conversations.
And then they will EXPECT it. They will know they need correction.
And while they may not say it,
they will love you for it.
Always remembering the end goal.
We are fueling the next generation. Big job.....I feel it too.
Tomorrow.......I will be sharing my thoughts on HONOR. Will you join me?
Yes, Monday came and went and now it is Tuesday.....and I am a little late on my posting. I finished Sunday with exasperation. I always wondered about that word and now that I have put some action to it, I can see it for what it is. And I can get an honest look at me.
Cause really, I can truly teach and give to my children only what I already possess.........and learning to possess.
So what do we do with this ugly word exasperation, because it really does sounds ugly.
Not something I want to line myself up with. But really, how do we move from just being exasperated a lot of the time to raising our children with discipline?
We must move to training and instructing our children with love.
Doesn't that sound so much better?
I firmly believe that showing them affection and using great listening skills on a daily basis - even our teenagers -is key. Giving them this time first- lays the foundation for proper instruction and training.
This may step on toes -And I am so pointing at myself.........but
conversing with them while playing a computer game or on Facebook doesn't count for time with them! And it doesn't have to be a large amount. Just focused for a few minutes.
Look them in the eyes. Smile. Be sure they know you think they are beautiful inside and out, no matter what.
Give lots of hugs. Squeeze lots of hands....Even the big boys. And LISTEN to them. Really listen with our ears. CONNECT with them.
Now the foundation is laid for the instruction.
By Instruction I am implying the "what you say". It's all the counseling, the teaching, the moments of sharing your stories and yes, believe it or not, they are listening to you.
And when you are loving them, listening to them, instructing them,
You will be able to TRAIN.
Training is the "do part". The nitty gritty, at times, as this is where the discipline comes in. The correction......always in LOVE.
The training will flow with much more ease through you when you have already had the connection and the conversations.
And then they will EXPECT it. They will know they need correction.
And while they may not say it,
they will love you for it.
Always remembering the end goal.
We are fueling the next generation. Big job.....I feel it too.
Tomorrow.......I will be sharing my thoughts on HONOR. Will you join me?
